Together • not married, not planning to
"We share a home, a dog, a life. We just don't need the paperwork."
Imani & Dre, 34 — Atlanta
Dating, outside the script
Your relationship.
Your rules.
A community for people building partnerships that don't fit the traditional mold — together under one roof without marriage, in two homes, solo poly, chosen family, and everything between. No script. No embarrassment.
The manifesto
We don't fit. On purpose.
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No template, no apology.
Living together unmarried, indefinitely. Two homes by choice. Solo poly. Chosen family. Whatever your shape — you don't owe anyone an explanation here.
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Find your people, not 'the one'.
Most apps optimize for traditional marriage. We built one for everyone the algorithm forgot — so the person across the table already wants what you want.
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Commitment, custom-fit.
Deep partnership doesn't require a ring, a mortgage, or a merged calendar. Define commitment your way, then meet someone who agrees.
Real members. Honest about what they want.
A small, considered community.
Partnered • two flats, one life
"We chose each other. Then we chose breakfast alone."
Nadia & Marc, 54 — Copenhagen
Long-distance • by design
"Two cities, one plan. The distance is part of how we work."
Lucía & Theo, 41 — Mexico City
Together • no marriage, no mortgage
"Love doesn't need a template. We wrote ours together."
Maya & Jordan, 29 — Brooklyn
How it works
Built around how you actually love.
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Tell us your shape
Cohabiting without marriage. Two homes. Solo poly. Long-distance by design. Pick one — or write your own. There's no wrong answer.
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Match by intention
We pair you with people seeking the same kind of relationship. No more first-date interrogations about where this is 'going'.
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Meet your community
Curated introductions, plus member-only events. A real community of people who already get it.
Questions, answered
The honest FAQ.
A few things people ask before signing up. If yours isn’t here, email us — we read everything.
- What do you mean by ‘shape’?
- Shape is just our shorthand for how a relationship is actually set up — who lives where, how exclusive it is, what commitment looks like. A monogamous couple sharing a mortgage is one shape. Two committed partners in two apartments is another. Solo poly is another. We use ‘shape’ because ‘relationship type’ sounds like a form field, and what we’re really asking is: what does your love actually look like day to day?
- How does Living Apart Together (LAT) work on Apart?
- LAT means you’re in a committed romantic relationship but keep separate homes — by choice, not circumstance. On Apart, you pick ‘Living Apart Together’ as your shape during onboarding, and we match you with people who explicitly want the same: deep commitment without sharing a roof. Your profile signals it up front, so you skip the ‘so… when are we moving in?’ conversation entirely.
- Can I change my shape later, or pick more than one?
- Yes. Your shape isn’t a tattoo. You can update it any time from your profile, and you can mark which shapes you’re open to meeting — they don’t have to match yours.
- What if my relationship doesn’t fit any of the listed shapes?
- Pick ‘Something else entirely’ and describe it in your own words. The whole point of Apart is that the list is a starting point, not a cage.
Now accepting members
Find someone who wants exactly what you want.
Founding members get lifetime access to curated introductions and our community gatherings. No swiping. No script.